Archive for October, 2007

The Porch in Avalon by J.S. Allen

October 28th, 2007
By Intimate Spirit

There is a porch in Avalon

Where days come rushing to,

Chasing the blush of sunset.

Tracked are they by a peeping moon

Arching its mountained backs

Like cats writhing on a carpet.

As day surrenders and shadows dance,

Stars awake, their skies enhance.

Scurrying quail hide from prying eyes.

All unwound whether wounded or won.

Ocean breaths whisper wetly

Sinking softly in the night leaved trees.

It is the time of peaceful Truth.A space for love is left,

Becoming one in consciousness

Knits hearts spun intimately

Toast and trust tomorrow

Together on Avalon’s porch.

Copyright J.S. Allen, all rights reserved,

Published with author permission by Earth Angel Publishing

Ask Earth Angel: How do I tell a good friend I am in love with them??

October 24th, 2007
By Sapphire Grace

This question came in to “Ask an Angel”  from another website: 

How do I tell a good friend I am in love with them?? 

“Ask an Angel” answered with the following:

This is a subject close to my heart; pun intended. I have had to distance myself from several really special relationships over the years because the other person wanted to add a romantic/sexual element. I still miss some of these friendships terribly. There was no way the other person could/would allow us to go back to being friends once they let their true feelings be known; it changed everything. Permanently.

Don’t get me wrong; I am a lover of love!! I have many friends and we tell each other we love each other all the time. Those words are followed by years of being there during the good, the bad and the ugly times. Friendship is a wonderful and necessary foundation for a solid romance. My former husband and I were best friends before, during and after our marriage!!

A long-term really close friendship does not usually turn into romance overnight, or by the uttering of “I love you.” Love is less a feeling and more a process. Both parties generally begin to feel “something more” for the other and begin to flirt, make up reasons for calling, emailing, texting more often, insert encouraging comments into benign conversations, giving thoughtful gifts, etc. If none of these positive clues have been taking place, and being reciprocated with the same intentions, I would think twice before making any declarations.

Also, before telling a really close friend that I was in love with them I would take an honest inventory of myself and my motivations. Am I feeling lonely? Do I have needs that are not being met? Is their proximity in my life convenient? Is it that time in my life to couple? Am I frightened at the way the world is going? Is there a financial element?? Am I willing to risk loosing the person altogether if the feelings are not mutual??

I would also consider how my really close friend might feel. Might my close friend be mad/disappointed/surprised at this shift in boundaries?? Do I genuinely believe/think/feel that my close friend wants me to say the three words that will change our relationship forever? If so, I would go for it; if I had any doubt, I would test the waters first.

“Feelings” are the result of “thoughts.” I would surely take an inventory of my own thoughts to see if I am in love with someone because of the amazing qualities they possess, because of the way I feel when I am with them, or are there some nagging needs of my own that are not being met and I have told myself the other person can fill them.

Hope this helps!! Keep me posted!!

Blessings, Ask an Angel

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Book Review: Top Rating for The Isle of Is

October 18th, 2007
By Sapphire Grace

The Isle of Is, a Guide to Awakening, is a magical parable written with immense creativity and insight by two authors with complimenting genius, Caroline D. Cottom and Thom A. Cronkhite. Written AND spoken (on the included CD) it is a perfect gift for novice seekers and lifetime journeyers as well. A delightful fairy tale guides readers to their own profound understanding of Divine Presence. This simple story unfolds at multiple levels and would be an excellent read and reread for many years to come. Original metaphors that engage the spirit, heart and senses come beautifully wrapped in a breathtaking cover painted by Jeffrey K. Bedrick.

It will never leave my nightstand.

AUTHENTICS: Post #7

October 16th, 2007
By Sapphire Grace

AUTHENTICS: Life Skills by Conscious Design

#7: “Appreciation vs. Expectation” by Sapphire Grace

We meet, we fall in love and our appreciation for the other person knows no bounds. They are intelligent, kind, successful, generous, punctual, funny and to us, they can do no wrong. We love all the same things: walks on the beach, long dinners, sleeping in, working out. We even share the same politics and spiritual beliefs. We are amazed by their sensitivity to family members, children, pets, and humanity. Their jokes keep us in stitches. Their efforts to save a fallen baby sparrow brings tears to our eyes. We love the very look of them; we even love their smell. We brag about them. We count on them. We have found safe harbor to be ourselves.

Before long expectation surfaces and we begin to feel more critical of them. We decide their intelligence may not extend much beyond their chosen profession. They lack common sense. They are on the computer too much and at the office too often. Their sensitivity seems codependent. Returning from the gym smells a bit ripe. They tell the same joke over and over. Their generosity has sexual strings. Flushing a half-dead goldfish down the drain seems thoughtless. Plus, they don’t spend nearly as much time as they used to looking good for us. The safe harbor begins to feel like dry dock.

Any time we are out-of-sorts with someone it is generally because we have lost our original appreciation of them and allowed our expectation to take over. The ten times they were right on time is replaced with disappointment the one time they are late because it is our birthday. Their jokes are corny, or off-color, or too personal. The admiration of a toned body fades into piles of smelly laundry. This safe harbor needs dredging.

To learn more about the art and science of

AUTHENTICS: Life Skills by Conscious Design 

BLUE WATERS SPEAK TO ME, a new book due in late November/early December

by author, artist and spiritual activist, Sapphire Grace,

please continue to visit www.EarthAngelPublishing.com or

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“Your Heart is like Your Chocolate Drawer”

October 9th, 2007
By Sapphire Grace

“Your heart is just like your Chocolate Drawer,” my friend remarks in passing while nosing around my kitchen. I nod my head in the direction of her affections. Her eyes light up; she stops crying.

I pour two fresh cups of chocolate flavored decaf. My dear friend, half heartbroken half relieved, showed up unannounced before dawn. Still in sweats, practicing Yoga with Steven Ross on cable, I answered the door to a tear-stained face seeking solace and comfort.

With a hug and an arm around her shoulder I welcomed her into the sanctuary I call home. I am a Life Skills Coach. With thousands of life-affirming-tools at my disposal, there is one that rarely fails: The Chocolate Drawer. I use it myself. At 5′ 3″ and 120 pounds I alone probably consume twice my weight in any given year. My clients, friends and loved ones use it even more and easily triple that amount.

I hand my friend a piping hot mug but her eyes linger on the milk chocolate See’s rum nougats. “Help yourself,” I offer genuinely. I silently thank the Wild-Divine for small blessings and the power to resist one of my favorites. This time anyway.

Everyone who enters my safe haven is free to try, taste, nibble, eat, gobble, scoff, wolf, gorge, feast, munch, chomp, partake, consume, devour AND take as much as they desire from The Chocolate Drawer. There is only one caveat.

For me, chocolate is an indispensable Life Skills tool. When I am training for an event, the Chocolate Drawer expands into a full Chocolate Cupboard. Around the Holidays, it dwindles down to just a Hershey bar or two. When I am stressed, even the dark brown glove compartment of my old Mercedes is pressed into cocolate-service. As are the pockets of my business suits. And my Day-Timer.

My friend lovingly passes her finger above her favorites, in silent reverence, as though recalling passionate temptations and forbidden pleasures. Tears well up in her eyes again, she blows her nose. We all abide by the Chocolate Honor System; you touch it, you take it.

“What do you mean?” I ask just before popping a large extra dark chocolate covered cherry into my mouth from a bowl on the counter. I love this friend every bit as much as I love the brown-divine, but wasn’t sure I wanted my heart compared to a drawer.

Ignoring my question she asks, “Where ELSE are you hiding the goods?” My closest friends have developed this shorthand question for deciphering what’s going on in my life. In truth, they know everything, but the clues are even more fun. When I have a lover, another cocoa-stash surreptitiously finds its way into my boudoir. When I write full time (sans lover) a big bowl of dark chocolate peanut M&M’s can be found next to my computer. When I plan a dinner party, every room is graced with wrapped angelic-confections somewhere. Yes, even the bathrooms.

“Here and there,” I reply casually, knowing the drill.

“Spill it,” my friend commands, nicely, finally settling on a handful of imported Belgium chocolate covered espresso beans. Her sniffling has stopped.

“Tell me about your heart-drawer theory,” I rejoin while adding carob soy to the steaming java.

“Not heart-drawer,” she chuckles, smiling broadly for the first time, “heart-chocolate.”

Okay, I like the sound of that better.

We settle into elegant over-stuffed couches lined with down pillows surrounded by boxes of Kleenex. Although I have a perfectly appointed coaching office, it is my family room that seems to comfort most. My friend kicks off her shoes, tucks her feet under her, arranges the pillows into a cocoon, wraps a nearby shawl around her shoulders and settles in with her coffee and chocolate. “What brings you here before the sun even rises?” I ask softly.

“Life,” she says as she exhales with exasperation and looks off into the distance. I know we are going to be here for awhile.

(copyright Sapphire Grace, all rights reserved)

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